Last night on VH1’s Basketball-Wives reality show we witness an emotional Tami Roman as she revealed a painful childhood secret of hers which she’d been keeping to herself up until now. In the episode Tami visits a therapist [whom she sees for anger management] and when asked about the underlying reason for he anger Tami confesses that it all began when she was raped as child.
Tami starts off by talking the result of her anger which she says stems from her being a fighter most of her life.
I’ve been a fighter msost of my life in one way or another… and I don’t want to be mad all the time…Yeah I really don’t …I could wake up and get mad like this[snap fingers] at the smallest thing and I know that’s not healthy.. I know why I’m angry I just harber a lot of, you know, emotions and anger so when somebody does something..its very easier for me to take out everything that I’m feeling on that person.
The therapist then asks Tami where does she think her anger come from. Tami responds:
As a kid growing up I was raped twice. My mom diddn’t know about and that’s an issue for me you know. I’ve been held up at gunpoint; someone threatening to blow my brains up.. torching me for four days…People have beaten me up,…. you know people that I thought loved me you know, and so that’s why I’m big on my personal space because I’ve been violating so many times by people that I thought cared about me so I’m not about to let people that I don’t know come in here [points to her heart]; this very special to me.
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Tami later reveals that she is not sure if she will continue discussing this topic and or revealing another childhood wounds because she’s just isn’t comfortable do so at this time. Well, Tami sure gets an big ‘E’ for making an effort and doing the first step of the solution which is acknowledging the problem.
Tami, we wish you well on your healing journey.